hurtful

Etymology

hurt + -ful

adj

1. Tending to impair or damage; injurious; occasioning loss or injury.
   A good principle not rightly understood may prove as hurtful as a bad. 1649, John Milton, Eikonoklastes
   Well-cultivated soils are often healthy; nor at present has it been proved that the use of manure is hurtful. 1890, George Henry Rohé, Text-book of hygiene
2. Tending to hurt someone's feelings; insulting.
   Both men and women can be emotionally abusive. Even in the healthiest relationships, people occasionally reach down into their personal bags of known remembrances, past disagreements, and unresolved issues, and fling hurtful comments at their partners. 2000, Michael Paymar, Violent No More
   Better yet, maybe she should call and apologize for all of the rude comments she spewed in the midst of her anger—hurtful comments that should never be spoken between a wife and her husband. 2006, Ryan Phillips, Fall from Grace